Each dollar of child support collected by the state the state gets in federal grant money on a 1:1 basis. Notice IM NOT COMPLAINING ABOUT MY CHILDREN whom I nursed and sang to as infants etcI loved being a mom and business woman and soldier. Even though that might seem unfair, try to think about things from your child's point of view. . Women have the advantage right off the bat. Oh, and if dad fails to pay, there is the Federal Office of Child Support Enforcement (OCSE). Just because its a law, doesnt mean its right. Individuals like myself work hard to be a part of our childs life, make our payments and stay on amicable terms with the other parents only to be drug over the coals simply because they state wants to recover their losses. The parents should decide together how to pay for the kids extras, and the few required expenses should be covered by a legal agreement to split the costs. The judge wont be amused but if youre actually dangerous to the kids, like a lot of whinging dads are, then no, the judge isnt going to help you get access to them. I demanded 50/50 joint with no legal custodial, even though the standard was to me. Office in Ridgeland, MS. 4 Problems With The Modern Child Support System, Click to share on Facebook (Opens in new window), Click to share on Twitter (Opens in new window), Click to share on Reddit (Opens in new window), Click to share on LinkedIn (Opens in new window), Click to share on Pinterest (Opens in new window). The research indicated that fathers typically gained financially following a divorce, even though they were ordered to pay child support, and mothers typically lost financially, they had both. Well if thats the case why cant she be held to this same standard? I told him i was fighting the injustice and that my income numbers had been falsified, that i could not work because of this trauma, and that i currently stayed home with our 2 7 year olds while my bf worked. My goal is to raise a well rounded emotionally stable child peace, Child support is on top of child supportso dads in sd pay their child support and also half of daycareforces dads into poverty, I would like to see receipts for expenses for children through child support services, so child support is paying for moms drug or alcohol habits. I pay $1,741 per month for two kids when the mother makes over $140k a year. Making physical contact with another person in a harmful or offensive manner is a crime. All of this is satisfactory to our horrible flawed court system. And the court in Arkansas doesnt care at all that we have 6 children now. I feel everyones pain in this comment section Im a dad and I have not worked for 3 months dues to my wife having an AFE(amniotic Fluid Embolism) I have to help her she is in bad condition and Im the only that can care for her she cannot be left alone she is a fall risk and has numerous health issues she cant even walk. Anyone that thinks Child Support is fare needs to get a grip on reality! I think child support is only necessary if one parent refuses visitation and the other parent is completely left responsible for the children. Please 140k is an executive position at a company or a good looking stripper can make more than that in tips. Why did you sleep with the woman who has YOU on child support? Dido mine cheated and my kids live with grandmother her mother while shes out partying and doing drugs Im in mass shes in florida and my kids tell me shes never their said she lives in a van her own mother cant stand her. I did not read all of the comments but one think in terms article got my attention that is incorrect. She lives in a drug and gang ravaged area in Covington Ky. it is mebut for the 16th year I cant repair my car or get a new one because the state took my federal taxes in escrow again and its more than my entire arrearages which I refuse to pay for since noone can even tell me where to find my children because apparently visitation and obsconding from court appointed visitations is an allowable choice in our state, which should be rewarded for ruining your children. I think not. So just like every other tax-man I have ever met you are woefully uninformed and clearly do not have a gasp of real life sufficient to comment on real world matters. I am facing the loss of my contractors license, drivers license, garnishing of my bank account and jail time because I cannot afford to pay the unfairly and grossly inaccurately calculated child support obligation. Or, she can take him to the cleaners through child support enforcement, and get away without ever letting him see his own kid. 2. I apply for food stamps and am DENIED because I am just at their income limit because they DONT COUNT CHILD SUPPORT PAYMENTS!! I took the charge to stand up for my right to visit my kids. Its time to demand the following: HERE IN SC, THEY GO ACCORDING TO YOUR INCOME AND HE MAKES MORE THAN ENOUGH, AND YET MAYBE MAKE A PAYMENT EVERY 2-3MONTHS. How does that help the father payback arrears if he cant drive to find work? So when a woman has children under the guise that she will raise them at home and not send them to a sitter while she goes to work, she will then expect the same consideration if things go south. thats because they lower it so much . We areout the door planning another activity. So technically daycare is not a need when you can use a private party. This is called kidnapping, and it often goes by another name: courtnapping. If he loses all his money which woman going to consider relationship with him? I have rent and a car payment, phone, cable, auto ins. As we all now those numbers are not based in reality. So dad now owes 2 years in back support and in a lot of cases the mother is making 2 to 3 times what the father did before he was injured . That we merley are just a number to be bought and sold! The lack of relationship with his children has nothing to do with him not trying, but everything with her not letting him be the father he wanted to be. And for the record I know children are expensive hence the reason I am one and done. If some one has to pay 25k per month the mother or father (regardless of earnings) either has to allow the child to live with the wealthier parent, request less money thats within her budget, or match the amount. And what if that same husband had this happen to him in a previous marriage? Whete is the one that hey no suppory bit see the other drvelopment better. And since many states treat incarceration as voluntary unemployment, child support debts continue accumulating while men are in prison. I have no criminal history. My husband is in active therapy for his PTSD and depression and is unable to work physically.. She abused him and he was to weak to fight her then she abuses the children and now shes abusing me. Do you think your kid stops eating? We chose the wrong women, John. To be honest, she could have whatever she wants. Lisa although I understand from your perspective you share about single mothers. Unfair child support guidelines. If a threat follows a demand, its extortion. Come join Texans For Parental Equality on our facebook page. So what do we do about it? The old chestnut. Which means, even if the husband knows that the kid is not from him, he is bound to pay maintenance. Imagine a scenario where parents have 50/50 custody, earn equal amounts, therefore being capable of offering the child the same lifestyle at each home. 5) If a woman wants an abortion it is up to her. In PA of Armstrong county. (Im sure you can sense the dripping sarcasm.). I am a single dad of four. Too many good fathers are being forced into poverty over this ridiculous system. Government has been given too too much power. The equal earning parents then have dramatically different post-child support budgets, since one is receiving and the other is paying. WEHUNT v LEDBETTER is the case. If he paid 50% of the actual expenses for the boys, his child support obligation would be $1084.13 per month. Ive paid thousands in CS and they have 4 vacations planned so far and when I get them those 48 hours all I can do is a park and ice cream. Thanks. I bet if I asked her why she divorced you it would make complete sense, so stop acting the victim. When he called child support this week and essentially asked them to reconsider and/or issue a temporary license due to his situation they told him flat out that there was nothing they can do and he still owes regular payments even without having a source of income. Between my wife and I and there grandparents, we buy all there clothes,its also the only time when there not eating frozen fish sticks etc etc. There r plenty of lazy, lying, no good moms out there too. Phyllis MacCutcheon licensed in CT and NM only. This article will discuss Illinois Child Support Laws and explain the Illinois Child Support Laws that went into effect on January 1st, 2022, which requires that during child support proceedings parents must obtain or maintain health insurance . Custodial parents should be required to document actual costs of the child (day care, health care, clothing, extra curriculars etc) and there should be an equitable split of these costs between the parents (based on earning ability, education etc, not whether they want to work or not). KS and LindseyDont know if your following. Through out this whole mess my husband and I have been living below poverty level, not by choice either and they still want him to pay 735 on a 1000 dollar income we pay 300 plus a month whenever we have extra plus we pay money to the mother directly or go online to buy the kids clothes, school books, other school fees because she wont use the child support for them and the kids call us because something is due that day or the next and despite them asking their mom she wont pay for it. Oh, by the way, he old paid it because I filed for divorce and took him to court. [2] Child support is not alimony. 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